“And the name of the man was Nabal, and the name of his wife Abigail; and the woman was of good understanding, and of a beautiful countenance; but the man was churlish and evil in his doings; and he was a Calebite.” (1 Samuel 25:3)

In our previous study, we have seen how the name “Nabal” means “foolish” or “impious”, and how many parents today build the character of their children in a way that they become “Nabal”s… Nabal was a descendant of Caleb who was a godly man, and he even lived in the region that was given to that godly man, and yet he was ungodly. Godliness is not inherited. And living in a region where a saint lived does not make you a saint. And yet, many ungodly people today boast of being the children of godly parents, or members of an orthodox church, or the native citizens of a nation that had many saints in history. These should be reminded that godliness is not inherited. A selfish man who lives for himself and lays up treasure for himself and is not rich toward God is a man who is called “fool” by God, although the world may call him “a great man”. This man Nabal was a great man according to the world, but he was a foolish, churlish and evil man according to God. Even if a man gains the approval of the whole world, but does not have the approval of God, then he is nothing; he has lost everything. What did the Lord Jesus say? He said: “For what does a man profit, if he should gain the whole world and suffer the loss of his soul? or what shall a man give in exchange for his soul?” (Matthew 16:26) And maybe many do not know that the Lord said the following: “Woe, when all men speak well of you, for after this manner did their fathers to the false prophets.” (Luke 6:26) It is really sad that many who call themselves Christians still want the approval of the world, and act and behave in worldly ways in order to convince the world that they are not “strangers and exiles on the earth.” (Hebrews 11:13)… And yet, the Apostles of our Lord were really clear. Paul said: “For do I now seek to satisfy men or God? or do I seek to please men? If I were yet pleasing men, I were not Christ’s bondman.” (Galatians 1:10) If you seek to please men, then you’re not a servant of Christ (i.e. you’re not a Christian). James wrote: “Adulteresses, know ye not that friendship with the world is enmity with God? Whoever therefore is minded to be [the] friend of the world is constituted enemy of God.” (James 4:4) If you are a friend of the world, then you are an enemy of God and you are committing spiritual adultery. John said: “Love not the world, nor the things in the world. If any one love the world, the love of the Father is not in him” (1 John 2:15) If you love the world, then you hate God, even if you pass the whole of your life writing poems of love for God, because in that case you will be like a wife who, while she says beautiful words to her husband, has another man in her heart… This is how the Word of God describes a man who claims to be a Christian, and yet he still loves the world: he’s living in spiritual adultery.

So till here, we have seen the description of this ungodly husband. Now the Holy Spirit tells us also about the godly wife.

Her name is Abigail. This name means “my father’s joy”. Indeed, “A wise son maketh a glad father; but a foolish man despiseth his mother.” (Proverbs 15:20) This godly daughter has surely made her father glad. But her marriage with such an ungodly man as Nabal should have saddened the heart of her father. If Abigail were a believer before her marriage, she would not be pleased to be bound together with an unbeliever (cf. 2 Corinthians 6:14). But we should not forget also that in those days the father of Abigail could have chosen this husband for his daughter, seeing that this husband was rich, and wanting the best for the future of his daughter. As we have seen, these are the things that the world looks for. But a godly parent should not look for these things when choosing a husband for his daughter. You, Christian girl, you should not look in your future husband for the same things that an ungodly girl looks for. If you have really known God, then He is your Father in Christ; you should be your Father’s joy. If your heart really belongs to Christ, then a man that doesn’t really belong to Christ should not be able to enter there in the covenant of marriage. If you feel attracted to a worldly man’s character, then that’s not love that you feel inside you, but lust for the world. We have seen that this is not love, but hatred toward God, and a spiritual adultery. If you really experienced the Salvation of the Lord, then you have a new heart that seeks only what pleases the Lord; then you will leave it to your Father to choose for you the man with a godly character. How beautiful it is to be united with the man for whom your Lord prepared you as a pure virgin, and whom He has prepared for you in all purity and holiness! And even if your past has been tough, and the evil one has trampled the rose of your purity under his feet, remember what the Word of God says very clearly: “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us [our] sins, and cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” (1 John 1:9) Don’t let the evil one deceive you; it’s not true that you have ruined your life in such a way that the Lord is not able anymore to build it again, even more beautiful than before. Wherever you are, and whatever is the depth of your ugliness, just turn to the Lord in repentance, and confess to Him your sinfulness; He is Faithful and Righteous to forgive you your sins and to cleanse you from all unrighteousness. If you really believe that He is the Light, then walk in the Light, and don’t let the darkness of your past sins hinder your walk in holiness. Don’t say to yourself “I have walked in sin all this time, so I can’t do anything other than to continue to walk in sin”. The one who really believes that God is Light, and in Him there is no darkness at all, should give the fruit of this faith by walking in the Light as He is in the light, and thus he will experience the truth of His forgiveness and cleansing: “But if we walk in the light as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus Christ his Son cleanses us from all sin.” (1 John 1:7) So don’t be afraid to walk against the flow; only the dead fish will go with the flow… If you have the life of Christ in you, then you should be different. Rely on the Grace of God alone to make you the person that the Lord wants you to be. Just don’t believe that the darkness can overcome the Lord Jesus.

This godly woman, Abigail, was of good understanding and of a beautiful appearance. We will see what this means in our next study, if the Lord wills.

Grace be with you!
Disciple of Jesus Christ


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